Most girls who work out they're lesbos later in life have some
jitters when they're facing their first sexual experience. As a coach, I
regularly hear questions like, "What do I do?" and "How do I do it?" I
also regularly hear comments like, "What if i am unable to please her?"
and "What if I don't like it?" Please, relax! Remember, lesbian sex is,
above all, FUN. There are some real positives about lesbian sex that
actually can reduce strain, compared to hetero sex. * There are no
Problems about getting pregnant. This is gigantic.
No contraception, no "slipping up" and then having to attend on the fringe of your seat three weeks to work out if you have missed. Absolutely freeing. * Then there's the issue of orgasms.
Men have "one and done," so fundamentally in hetero sex when he's's satisfied, the experience is over. Not so with lesbian sex. With multiple orgasm capacity it lasts while we need it to.
* Lesbian sex isn't vanilla. Simply by reason of the indisputable fact that it IS lesbian sex! It's imperative not to fall into a rut, though. Keep it fresh. * Communication is less complicated, since you talk the same language. Males and females have different communication styles and this will finish up in misunderstandings when it comes to sex. * Then naturally, the best advantage is that you are having sex with a woman, which naturally is what you have been wanting! Now, let's say you have been going out with a girl a number of times and you believe you are getting close. If the woman is also just coming out ( this frequently happens to mid-lifers ) there's infrequently less stress surrounding the loss of your lesbian virginity. You can learn together. While there are "how to" books available on the topic, you most likely will just finish up doing what comes natural. I do endorse the books as a cool way to open communication about the topic and maybe expand your idea of what makes up sex and your exploration of each other. When the experience does occur, you will probably find it a completely natural and great experience.
Then again some girls do describe their first time as weird. This is completely OK. You've been used to having hetero sex and this is something new. If the weird feeling continues, or you are feeling very uncomfortable or do not like lesbian sex, maybe you must rethink your alignment. If you're stepping out with a girl which has experience, you can feel under more stress. So, why not let her take the lead? Again, relax. Do what comes natural. There are no wrong and right strategies to have sex. Hear your better half, not only what she's's asserting, but her soon...breathing, complains, sighs. It is feasible to hurt her, but again, watch your better half's expressions, listen rigorously and take your cues from that. Keep communicating, before, during and after sex. Sex is always a learning experience when you're with a new partner. So, basically each time with someone new will be a first time. Each of you has different things that turn you on and you need to learn that about one another.
While you'll have read books or heard others' experiences and you suspect you know what lesbian sex is, the actuality is that there's a great deal of adaptation in sexual styles and desires among girls. Some ladies may need oral sex, others may think it's a turn-off, some ladies may like penetration, others do not some women may love their nipples touched and for others it may do nothing, or be unpleasant. Even if your better half is experienced, it's still her first time with YOU, too.
Ensure she knows that you are a lesbian virgin. That'll be something she's's thinking about...making sure it's great for you the initial time. So, the field will not be as uneven as you might imagine. When having lesbian sex for the initial time, remember, there isn't any right and wrong, just what you both like to do. There are few rules, just be natural and keep communicating - stay mindful of how she feels and tell her how you are feeling and what you like, too. Keep these things in mind and I'm sure of one thing - your very first time will definitely not be your last!
No contraception, no "slipping up" and then having to attend on the fringe of your seat three weeks to work out if you have missed. Absolutely freeing. * Then there's the issue of orgasms.
Men have "one and done," so fundamentally in hetero sex when he's's satisfied, the experience is over. Not so with lesbian sex. With multiple orgasm capacity it lasts while we need it to.
* Lesbian sex isn't vanilla. Simply by reason of the indisputable fact that it IS lesbian sex! It's imperative not to fall into a rut, though. Keep it fresh. * Communication is less complicated, since you talk the same language. Males and females have different communication styles and this will finish up in misunderstandings when it comes to sex. * Then naturally, the best advantage is that you are having sex with a woman, which naturally is what you have been wanting! Now, let's say you have been going out with a girl a number of times and you believe you are getting close. If the woman is also just coming out ( this frequently happens to mid-lifers ) there's infrequently less stress surrounding the loss of your lesbian virginity. You can learn together. While there are "how to" books available on the topic, you most likely will just finish up doing what comes natural. I do endorse the books as a cool way to open communication about the topic and maybe expand your idea of what makes up sex and your exploration of each other. When the experience does occur, you will probably find it a completely natural and great experience.
Then again some girls do describe their first time as weird. This is completely OK. You've been used to having hetero sex and this is something new. If the weird feeling continues, or you are feeling very uncomfortable or do not like lesbian sex, maybe you must rethink your alignment. If you're stepping out with a girl which has experience, you can feel under more stress. So, why not let her take the lead? Again, relax. Do what comes natural. There are no wrong and right strategies to have sex. Hear your better half, not only what she's's asserting, but her soon...breathing, complains, sighs. It is feasible to hurt her, but again, watch your better half's expressions, listen rigorously and take your cues from that. Keep communicating, before, during and after sex. Sex is always a learning experience when you're with a new partner. So, basically each time with someone new will be a first time. Each of you has different things that turn you on and you need to learn that about one another.
While you'll have read books or heard others' experiences and you suspect you know what lesbian sex is, the actuality is that there's a great deal of adaptation in sexual styles and desires among girls. Some ladies may need oral sex, others may think it's a turn-off, some ladies may like penetration, others do not some women may love their nipples touched and for others it may do nothing, or be unpleasant. Even if your better half is experienced, it's still her first time with YOU, too.
Ensure she knows that you are a lesbian virgin. That'll be something she's's thinking about...making sure it's great for you the initial time. So, the field will not be as uneven as you might imagine. When having lesbian sex for the initial time, remember, there isn't any right and wrong, just what you both like to do. There are few rules, just be natural and keep communicating - stay mindful of how she feels and tell her how you are feeling and what you like, too. Keep these things in mind and I'm sure of one thing - your very first time will definitely not be your last!
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