Lesbian Date Ideas

I've told you my favorite dates for all four seasons. What about you? What are your favorite lesbian date ideas or places? Share your ideas with the world! Tell Your Best Date Idea

Walking in days to another town for love

i fell in love with an awesome girl. But i have never met her. So i thought to my self, she's not that far away. so i packed some food, some money and something to drink and i started heading down that city. after a couple of days, i finally got there, I knew the name of her school, i didn't want to go that day. So i searched and searched and there it was.. her school. I walked in, and i saw her. I said: come here.. she came and i told her teacher that we were going to a wedding.. or something i don't know. but then, i took her somewhere were we could see out to sea and see denmark. It was the most beautiful thing i have ever done for someone.. she called that day a date, i called it a miracle. haha i survived days just walking many miles down in sweden. BUT! that.. was..the..most amazing day of my life.. 

Out in Nature

I am a city girl by heart, but I drove out 2.5 hours to meet my now girlfriend for the first time. She lives in the country. We went to these beautiful quintessential New England country towns and eventually went to this swimming hole, waded in the water, and shared our first kiss (or 100) there. It was so peaceful and perfect for our first date and kiss.

a tent picnic

we made a picnic and because id never been camping before we decided to combine the 2 and spent all day laying in a tent and eating sandwiches...it was amazing and relaxing and just perfect 

first "date"

We didn't plan on it actually being a "date" because she still had a boyfriend. Halfway into it we joked about it being a date, and I think in the end we agreed it actually was. I asked her to "surprise me" when I visited her in DC. Her "surprise" was having nothing planned. We met at a metro stop and just walked up to the street, saw a cute cafe and ate there. Then we noticed a Barnes & Noble across the street so we walked over there and roamed for a while, talking about books and all sorts of things. After that we got back on the sidewalk and saw an indie cinema (all of this was pretty much at the same intersection) so we just picked a random movie since we hadn't planned on anything (it turned out to be Jane Eyre) and just let the night progress. It was all on a whim. Not having to worry about the time or the place really made our first "date" very relaxed and enjoyable. It was the BEST first date I've ever had and probably ever will have. I miss you, doll.

Camping cabin

We were planning a long trip to like one of our favorite places: Gulf Port, Florida. (See best lesbian places to live or vacation, I can't remember where I posted about Gulf Port. But you must go there. Very gay friendly) But time and money ran short so we decided to "vacation at home." We rented a little cabin at a local campground and spent the two days doing all the things you want to do but don't do because it's close to home and you never do it because you are so busy making a living. You know? We had fun, roasted marshmellows and stuff by the fire. We held hands and kissed, walked arm in arm and generally it was a most relaxing and like wonderful time we've had out together in a long time. Now this is more than a date, but it seemed like a date to us and we called it our two day and one overnight date. LOL 

Winter Wonderland

I kept it a big secret... I took her to amish country for a horse drawn sleigh ride. It was after dark, cold, and lots of fun. The driver was very friendly: offering to take our picture together, tucked us in together under a big blanket and off we went. Half way through the ride, we stopped and were allowed to climb on the horse for a picture or two. It was great fun and very romantic!

Best Date

For my girlfriend's birthday, I got together food for a picnic and took her to a park that we go to pretty often. We layed out on a blanket and just relaxed. The weather was awesome and everything just felt perfect. The best part was our first public kiss. It wasn't intended to be public, but after it happened, we realized there were people at a nearby table. Oops! ; )

vacation in new mexico.

she invited me to a famly vacation and we were riding the quads i was terrified so i road on the back with her. we had so much fun. we screamed katy perry songs on the back of the quad. i know tht sounds stupid but you wernt there. we stayed up late and looked at the stars i never saw them so pretty.we also had a picnic just the two of us . best date ever

Public

Honestly, the best date I ever had was the first one in public. We just walked around the mall holding hands and kissing in walmart. No one told us we were going to hell, no one even gave us a second glance. It was nice to know that we are on the way to not only be tolerated, but accepted. Although I'm sure that sounds stupid.

Road trip

It was my last week of vacation before I go back home. We spent a month together, literally everyday, and being apart was the last thing we wanted. She decided to bring me on a road trip one weekend. We took in a lot of sights, stopped wherever for meals, and only had a map and the handy GPS to keep us company. We spent a lot of hours in the car, talking, arguing when we got lost, laughing at some random stuff, just simply having fun. She booked us in a B&B for the night, and we just stayed in the whole time, with packed food for dinner. Being in a different place, just the 2 of us, really made a difference. We felt closer than ever, and definitely more intimate. In the morning we left before lunch, and once again navigated the road til we reached our destination. the sight was superb, and we made it right on time. Sharing the trip together was a beautiful way for us to bond and connect, and it just made us more confident of our relationship despite it being long distance.

rowboating

Last summer (but could also be a spring date), I took my girlfriend to a nearby park. I found out they rent rowboats and you can row around the lake. It was a lot of fun and the ducks were fun to watch. Not only was it fun, but it was cheap-$7, then you receive $5 back when you return the boat and equipment! Plus, it was great to see how we worked together while I took one oar and she took the other. She often brings up how much fun it was and how much she enjoyed it. She'll ask me " Can we go back this summer?!" This summer I want to take her on a gondola ride in Central Park, NY.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lesbian Dating - How to Make the First Move

It’s a common situation with lesbians, especially those who are just coming out. Two women are hanging out. They get along great. They talk everyday and text all the time. She’s dropped lots of little hints that she’s into you and you are most definitely into her. But how do you take it to the next level? How does a lesbian move from friendship to lover? How do you make the first move?
There is no one way to make the first move in lesbian dating. Here are a few ideas about how to make the first move. Read through these suggestions and pick one that works for you.

Reach for her Hand

If you’re out to dinner or having cocktails and the conversation quiets, reach for her hand across the table and look her in the eye. Chances are you won’t have to say anything. Pick her hand up with your other hand and hold it for a moment before letting it go. If there is sexual energy between you, you’ll feel it. Likewise, if you’re at the movies or watching a movie at one of your houses, at some point, reach over and take her hand in yours. She may give you a little squeeze, or look at you. Just smile and continue watching the movie. If she doesn’t take her eyes off you, then turn back towards her and give her a kiss.
You can also put your hand on her knee. If she reaches down and puts her hand on top of yours, you’ll know for sure she’s into you.

How to move in for a kiss

If you’re standing and facing each other, that can be a good time to move in for a kiss. If you’re at a club, at her car or her front door, lean back against the wall, reach for her hands and pull her toward you. When she’s close, brush your lips against hers and kiss her.

Hug to Kiss

Sometimes a hug can turn into something more. It’s the end of the night. You’ve had a great time hanging out together. She goes to give you the good night hug you’ve come to expect. This time, when you start to pull away, move back in and plant one on her lips.

Lingering Touch to a Kiss

If you’re on the dance floor, dancing to a slow song, lightly put your hands on her hips and move in closer to her. Look into her eyes and move your head close to her lips. You can slowly move in for a kiss or see if she moves toward you kisses you.

Little touches go a long Way

As you’re hanging out with her, touch her nonchalantly from time to time. Brush her knee, let your thighs touch as you sit side by side, adjust her collar or gently touch her arm. See if she returns any of the gestures.

Say It

Some people believe you shouldn’t talk too much about it, you should just act. “Be bold, just kiss her!” That might work in some situations, but it can be equally as sexy pronounce your attraction. In an intimate moment, perhaps you’re sitting across from each other in a dark bar, or sitting side by side chatting, wait for a lull in conversation, look her in the eye and say, “I really want to kiss you.” That might be all it takes for her to tell you to go ahead and kiss her already! Or she might say nothing at all and just go for it herself and kiss you.

Confidence is Sexy

Your heart may be pounding a mile a minute in your chest and you may feel sweat start to bead down your pits, but really, there is nothing sexy about someone who is insecure and unsure of herself. Even if you’re not feeling totally confident, try not to let it show.

What if she turns you down?

It might happen. Maybe you’ve been reading the cues wrong. You thought the feelings were mutual, but as you move in for the kiss, she turns her head away. There is no need to feel bad. You can talk about it then or later. Maybe she is into you, but she’s just scared. Maybe she’s never been with a woman before or maybe she has someone else she is dating. Whatever you do, don’t force yourself on her or make her feel bad in any way for turning you down. Try to keep it light, wish her a good night and see your way home.

 

First Time Lesbian Sex Question

Here is a letter I received from a woman about to have lesbian sex for the first time. She wanted some more tips about her first lesbian sexual experience.
Hi, I kind of have a problem. I'm definitely turned on by my girlfriend and I love kissing her passionately etc. She is the first girl I’ve been with, but I know I love her. She doesn’t want to scare me by taking things too fast so she's kind of just leaving things up to me. I know that I want to be fully with her and I do get caught up in the moment with her but then I just kind of get scared that I don't know what I’m doing since I’ve never been with a girl before. I guess I’m just afraid I’m going to do something wrong. How do I overcome this fear?
First of all, good for you both for acknowledging your fears and taking things slow. Hopefully my advice will help quell your fears.

The first time with any new partner can be scary and especially so if it is your first time having sex at all, or your first time with a woman. Check out my tips for First Time Lesbian Sex.
As far as your fear of doing something wrong, let me say there is not “right” or “wrong” way to have sex. Sure, you are inexperienced and have never been with a woman before, but every woman is different. What turns one on, may be a turn off to another.
That is why communication is so important. And it sounds like you and your girlfriend have pretty good communication skills. It’s great that you have such an understanding partner for your first time.
My advice is to continue to take things slow with your girlfriend. Continue to talk about what feels good. Where does she like it when you touch her? Where does she not like it? Where would she like you to touch her more? Let her teach you where and how she likes to be touched. Instead of being afraid of doing something wrong, look at it as a learning experience. Sure, you might fumble from time to time. No one wins the Indy 500 her first time driving a car. Your skills will improve with time. And if you have good chemistry, skills really do take a back seat.
As you become more comfortable with yourself and with her, I’m sure you’ll find lots of ways to please each other.

First Time Lesbian Sex

 
There’s a lot wrapped up in your first time lesbian sexual experience. Whether it’s your first time having sex at all, or your first time having sex with another woman, being nervous is normal. There’s so much cultural hype about “your first time” and “losing your virginity.” One thing is true, you never do forget your first time. Here’s some tips to get you through your first time lesbian sexual experience.

1. Get to know your own body. Before you can even think about turning someone else on, it’s good to know what excites you. Yes, I’m talking about masturbation. Spend some time one-on-one with yourself. As you touch yourself and find the places that feel good, you’ll know where to touch her. And more importantly, how to tell her what turns you on.
2. Go sober. You want to remember your first lesbian sex. Sometimes alcohol or drugs can lower your inhibitions and make the first move easier, but you’re not as likely to do or say something regrettable if you’re sober.
3. Go Safe. Yes, lesbians need to worry about sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. Read up on lesbian safer sex and be prepared to bring the topic up with your partner. Unfortunately, safe sex is still not talked about very often in the lesbian community.
4. Fantasize. It all begins with fantasy. If you’re ready to sleep with another woman, you must have thought about it. What are those thoughts? Does she throw you down on the bed and have her way with you? Or do you go skinny dipping in your backyard pool? There’s a saying, you must imagine it before you can do it.
5. Leave the toys in the drawer. There will be plenty of time to learn about and play with sex toys. Let your first time be simple flesh-on-flesh love.
6. Relax. Take your time. Touch her all over. Don’t got straight for her crotch. Undress her slowly, appreciating every newly exposed piece of flesh. Kiss her elbows. Touch her breasts. Blow softly in her ear. Kiss her neck. Caress her belly, her inner thighs. Kiss behind her knees. Smell under her arms. Massage her buttocks. Slowly suck on her fingers. Get naked and lay your body on top of hers. There’s so much erotic fun you can have before you ever even touch her pubic area. Enjoy.

7. Communicate. Ask her what she wants. Ask her if what you’re doing feels good. Tell her where you want to be touched. Communication is key to any good sexual relationship. If she’s doing something you like, moan or purr to let her know that feels good.
8. Have realistic expectations. Your first time with a lover should be about getting to know her body, getting to know how to turn her on and learning what your chemistry is. Orgasm may or may not happen the first time. That’s okay. The point is to get physical, get close, express your feelings of love or desire.
9. Here are some more articles with information and “How To’s” of Lesbian Sex.

FOR LESBIANS

How do Femme Lesbians Make Themselves Known?

This is a question I received recently. A femme lesbian wants some advice on how to get noticed by other lesbians. How does a femme let other lesbians—-butches, femmes, and those in between--that she is also a lesbian.

I decided to ask a few femme friends I know who never seem to have trouble meeting other lesbians how they do it. One femme, Belinda Carroll who is a comedian says, "The way I do it is get onstage and announce I'm a single lesbian, who has a lipstick addiction."
Belinda goes on to say, “I wrote a piece for the Persistence anthology about this exact thing. Femme invisibility is a common topic among femmes. How do you let queers know you're queer when you look more Donna Reed than Pat Califia? My solution has been to wear obviously gay accouterments; political pins, buttons and the like. (I once had a trans-guy go into a full on purple blush because I was wearing a pin stating "I heart Trans-Guys." That was fun.)
Also, if you are in conversation with the person, you can mention your ex-girlfriend, or a queer organization you are involved with. Get involved and volunteer with queer organizations. It's cumbersome for femmes, because we all don't register on the radar, but you can do it.
I have a really hot hot butch friend who mentioned the most simple solution to letting the queer of your dreams know you're also queer...wink! If you can pull that off without feeling like a 70's porn star, my hats off to you!

Another femme friend has a slightly different tactic:

Sari says: My first reaction is to say, "Yeah, how DO we let other lesbians know we're one of them??" It’s a tricky question that I'm not even sure I know the answer to. But here's what works for me (some of this is tongue-in-cheek, but.... then again....not really...):

1. Find a place where lesbians go. That way, you've got at least a 70% chance that the chick you want to talk to will actually be into girls (the other 30% are straight allies or bi-curious). I realize that this limits the social scene for most people, but it seems to be the most fail-proof.
2. While in conversation with an obvious lesbian, casually mention an ex-girlfriend. Important note: you can't say "an old girlfriend of mine..." because straight girls call their friends "girlfriends," and no butch girl will take you for a lesbian if you say this. You have to use the term "ex-girlfriend," so as to spell it out as clearly as you can.
3. I find that the old "I may look casual, but this is an HRC shirt that has an important lesbian political message" clothing options are a good way to announce your sexual preference without saying anything. However, there is a HUGE flaw with this choice, and that is this: HRC (and every other LGBT clothing maker) doesn't make clothes for femmes, and I wouldn't be caught dead at any social function in a hoodie.
4. This is my favorite way to let other lesbians know I’m a lesbian: wake up in the morning, dress and act as you normally would (in all your sexy, confident, high-heeled glory), and let that be that. Without a doubt, the butch girl will find a way to talk to someone you're with, and eventually say, "Your friend is hot." At that point, your friend can fill the butch in, and you've done nothing but stand nearby and radiate sensual goodness. I found my first three girlfriends this way.... so it seems to work pretty well...

Eye Contact

From Kathy: Well, I’m not a femme, but I’ve found the best way to tell another lesbian, is by eye contact. When I see another lesbian in public, we make eye contact in a way that is different than with straight women. Even if there is not a romantic interest, there is a way that lesbians look each other in the eye, in a way that subtly says, “I see you,” that is different than how straight women look at each other.

Top 10 Best Places to Meet Lesbians or Bisexual Women

When you're coming out of the closet, it can be hard to know where to meet other lesbians or bisexual women. If you're not into the bar scene and are not ready to put yourself out there for dating, but just want to meet other lesbians or bisexuals for friendship, where do you go? Here are some ideas of great places to meet other lesbians and bisexual women.

1. The Lesbian Bar

In many cities and small towns, the only place to meet other lesbians may be in the lesbian bar. If you are not into the “club scene” try going on a night other than Friday or Saturday. You may find an open mic or karaoke night. On “off” nights you’re more likely to find an atmosphere that's more low key and friendly than the party weekend scene.

2. Gay and Lesbian Center

If there’s a gay and lesbian center in your town, it can be an excellent place to meet people. Many gay and lesbian centers have support groups, rap groups, book and movie groups and political action activities. Find one that feels right to you and you’re sure to meet other like-minded lesbians and bisexuals.

3. Sports Teams

Many cities have recreational sports teams, whether it be softball, volleyball or basketball. It’s no secret that lesbians love sports. Some have whole leagues for gay and lesbian athletes, other have teams that are “known” to be the teams lesbians play on. You don’t have to be an athlete to get in on the action. Sports like softball and rugby often have many lesbians in the stands watching. It can be a great place to people watch and start a conversation with a stranger.

4. Activities

The best place to meet other lesbians with interests similar to your own is to get involved in activities that interest you. Volunteer at the local animal shelter. Join the local gardening club or bird watchers group. The lesbians who are there may be few, but you know you’ll have something in common with them.

5. Through Friends

Let friends and coworkers know that you want to meet other lesbians and bisexuals. Have them invite you over for dinner or game night. Let them know you’re just looking to make friends. Once you meet one or two lesbians that you get along with, you may end up meeting their friends and be welcomed into a whole new circle of people.

6. The Internet

Sure most people think of the Internet as a place to meet lesbians to date, but it can also be a great place to meet women for friendship. You can put an ad up that says you’re just looking to make friends and answer other women’s ads that say the same thing. Who knows, you may even hit if off with someone and take it further than just friends.

7. Church

If your area has a church that is an “open and welcoming” congregation, that means the church is welcoming to gays and lesbians. Also Metropolitan Community Churches, United Church of Christ and Unitarian Churches, among others are known to be welcoming of gays and lesbians.

8. Gay Neighborhoods

Almost every major city has a neighborhood where gays and lesbians tend to live. There’s sure to be a coffeehouse or café where the lesbians will congregate.

9. Straight Clubs

When I was in my 20s, there was this hot female rock singer that we used to love. We didn’t know it for sure, but we suspected she was a lesbian. We would go to her shows and sure enough, every time we did, there were plenty of other lesbians there. Keep your eyes peeled for shows and concerts that lesbians are likely to attend.

10. Gay Newspaper

Pick up a copy of your local gay paper. There may be personals ads, a calendar of events or announcements for dances, plays, art shows, concerts and other activities. Check out one that interests you. Invite a gay-friendly straight friend to come along if you’re too shy to go by yourself.

Flirting Tips for Lesbians

How does a woman flirt with another woman? That can be tricky, especially if you do not know the sexual orientation of the object of your flirt.
There's nothing like having someone flirt with you to boost your self-esteem. Whether or not you return the attraction, it feels good to know that someone finds you attractive. Flirting is an art. It's a two-way game. You have to be able to read your partner's interest and comfort in the flirtation in order to know how to proceed.

But, if done properly, there is nothing better or more exciting than letting the electricity grow between you two in the beginning stages of a relationship. Flirting can be subtle or overt. I prefer the subtle kind.
Here's some tips for flirting:

When you're out together, try to sit near her. Notice if she moves closer or farther away. When you're sitting on a couch and your thighs touch, what does she do? Does she let it stay or inch away?

Look her in the eye when you are talking. Hold the stare for a little longer than you would a normal conversation.

It may sound corny, but open a door for her to walk through.

If you're sitting across from each other, gently put your hand on hers. Don't move it away unless she does.

Tell her she looks nice tonight. Compliment her hair or outfit.

Find out what makes her laugh. There's nothing like humor to cut the tension and loosen you both up.

Offer to get her a drink if you're at a party or bar together.

Touch her hand or shoulder when you hand her a drink.

Tell her you've been thinking about her.

Call her just to say hi and see what's she's been doing.

Send her a little note that says you enjoyed spending time together. An email is okay, hand written and dropped at her door or mailed is better.

Be careful not to over do it. You don't want to seem like a stalker. Look for signs that your flirtation is unwanted. Does she get off the phone quickly when you call? Do you send her long flowery e-mails, only to get one line answers in return? If so, back off and let her come to you.
Good luck and most of all, have fun!