Our Eyes Communicate Who We Are

Imagine this: you’re lying in bed with your new lover. You just had a session so hot it could rival even the best lesbian porn. You look into her honey-brown eyes and feel a surge of love/trust/passion/tenderness (choose one). Is it some sort of post-coital blissful feeling your brain produces to keep you from running out of the bedroom and into the night? No. It’s actually her eyes sending you signals.

Scientists have recently discovered that certain physical traits of our eyes actually indicate elements of our personality. The iris has something called “crypts,” which are basically pits, and the number of crypts we have actually signals how likely we are to be  tender, warm and trusting. The iris also has “furrows,” which are curving lines ringing the outer edge of the iris; the amount of furrows in the iris indicates how likely we are to be neurotic, impulsive and craving-driven – and to what degree.
The more crypts you have, the more tender you are. The more furrows, the more impulsive. The craziest part of this discovery is that the creation of furrows and crypts happens in the womb – which seems to imply this aspect of our personalities is decided very early on. Biology, then, has given us the power to express who we are through our gaze, and to read the character of others through theirs.
Does this mean you should ask your new lesbian girlfriend to position herself under the window in the morning so you can count her furrows and crypts? Is this going to be a new trend in lesbian online dating? Will we all have to put a scan of our eyes up on our profiles for all to see? I sincerely hope not, for there are two important things to remember. First: the implication here is that furrows are a bad sign, but don’t forget that impulsive behavior can also mean spontaneity. Secondly, and more importantly, we are intelligent, self-aware beings capable of working on our flaws and channeling them towards better uses. Point being: if you meet a smart, sexy, fun woman with an absurd number of furrows, I’d stick with her anyway.

The Four Hottest Celebrity Lesbians

There are some famous hot lesbians out there, but we don’t hear about or see enough of them. I’m feeling a bit tingly and dissatisfied this morning and need a good dose of some lesbian sex appeal, so I’ve decided to dedicate a post to celebrating the four finest lesbian women currently in the public eye.

1. Portia de Rossi
Portia de Rossi is one buttercup I’d like to drink from. The blonde hottie is an Australian actress who shot to fame after playing Nell Porter on the irritating-as-hell sitcom, Ally McBeal. She went on to do less irritating things like play Lindsay Bluth Funke on Arrested Development and marry funny lady Ellen DeGeneres. In 2010, she legally changed her name Portia Lee James DeGeneres. As long as she goes on looking like Botticelli’s Venus, I don’t give a lesbian fuck what she’s called.
2. Sheryl Swoopes

Sheryl makes me so goddamn weak I can barely type. She is beyond amazing. An all-star and MVP in the WNBA, as well as an Olympic gold medalist, she’s got a killer smile and ridiculously sexy eyes and is a huge, huge role model for other gay youth in sports. Oh, Sheryl, you can swoope me anytime.
3. Leisha Hailey

Um, Leisha Hailey is always, like, looking up at you with her i-know-what-you-want-and-i-can-give-it-to-you eyes and you’re like, oh damn, I just gone and cum in my pants, girl. Weirdly enough, this actress was the only out lesbian on the popular show The L Word while it was actually filming.
4. Cathy DeBuono

This one’s a little under the radar, but Cathy has some ample – and rare – assets I wanted to share with you. She’s an up-and-coming Hollywood actress who is searching for lesbian roles. Good luck, lady; in the meantime, do you mind if I stare at your ass? Thanks.

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The challenge of maintaining a healthy sex life in a monogamous relationship is a goddamn nightmare – let’s be honest. It can be done, but it takes a lot of work. There are some typical bad behaviors and traps long-term couples fall into that can, with a little bit of determination, be avoided.

1. Waiting Until You’re In the Mood
Oooooh. This one is brutal. Um, you and your girlfriend have been together for a very long time. While at first, fucking her was like fucking a lesbian porn star, now things have simmered down quite a bit. You used to rip her clothes off in the kitchen while she was making fajitas and suck her pussy, but now you see her make fajitas in her tight jeans all the time and you could care less. So, you never have sex, because you don’t naturally excite each other as much and are thus always too tired or too busy or whatever. Um, no, this can’t be your thinking. You’ve got to be a woman with a plan. Be spontaneous yet planned; wake up on fajita day and decide you’re going to get old school on your lady’s ass and rip off her clothes that night no matter how tired you are. Promise it to yourself, and don’t take her no for an answer.
2. Refusing Sex
You are mad. She left the space heater on again while you guys were at work and you told her not to do that eight million times and why doesn’t she understand you are simply worried about the house burning down…She didn’t apologize either, so, fuck her, no sex tonight, right? She is definitely not getting anything for a while. BIG MISTAKE. Do you really want to use sex as a tool of resentment? You real want to mix that shit up? Space heater anger and sex? Does that sound wise to you? Is it really worth it? I believe strongly that this is one to avoid – things can really get out of control this way.
3. The Comfort Zone
Get out there! Quick! There’s a stereotype out there that lesbian sex can get very boring because there are only a limited number of things we can do to one another. Of course, any of us who have actually had lesbian sex know this is not at all true. I have been thinking of at least a zillion ridiculously dirty things I want to do with my current online date, but they are too naughty to mention here. Couples however, as we all know, tend to box themselves in mentally and physically. Take a step back, take a break, read an erotic book, watch some porn, get some ideas on all the unchartered territory you can explore together – it’ll be well worth the effort.

Does She Want You?

It can be hard to tell, sometimes, if that beautiful woman is into you or if she is simply one super lovely, friendly human being. Particularly for women who are just getting into the lesbian dating game, deciphering whether she’s so hot for you she imagines making a lesbian porn film with you on a daily basis, or is just a touchy-feely mom type, can be some tricky shit. Like with any of these crazy lists, these are not hard and fast rules, and I caution you to use your common sense above all else, but they might just help push you in the right direction:

She touches you…
She actually touches you. She doesn’t just grab your arm and say, “Thank you,” when you’ve done something kind, or give you a hug after your dog Grouchy gets attacked by a squirrel, she really touches you. At a party, she puts her hand on your knee and lingers a bit. Or she puts her hand on top of yours after you tell her your favorite author is MIlan Kundera and says, “You keep surprising me, Rita.” Simply think about the context of the physical contact and whether or not it would be the natural reaction of a woman interested only in platonic affection.
She thinks you’re funny….
Or maybe she doesn’t And you don’t. And no one else seems to, but she’s always laughing at your jokes. Umm, then yeah, she’s definitely into you.
She Seeks You Out…
And you’re not playing Hide and Seek. She makes her way across a crowded room to talk to you at a party, even though you two aren’t close. You show up at the bar gathering late and get stuck at the table with the other group of people that make up the larger one; nevertheless, she slides out of the booth she’s in and makes her way to the chair beside you.
She Compliments You…
And not on your sweater or your vintage handbag or your bangs. She says you have the most dazzling green eyes she has ever seen in her entire life, and that your lips are beautiful. Tell her you can’t wait for hers to be upon them.

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We Now Thank Our Lesbian God for Amber Heard’s Lesbianism

 

Amber Heard has just come out of the closet. Why, hello, welcome to our big gay bedroom. Would you like to sit on my bed? I’d like you to sit on my bed. What? You say you’re comfortable right there? Fine. Have it your way.
Amber Heard, if you don’t know her, is a sexy, sexy 24 year-old actress who has been in flicks such as Pineapple Express, All the Boys Love Mandy lane and Zombieland. At the 25th anniversary celebration of GLAAD, Amber announced her two-year relationship with the amazingly talented artist and photographer Tasya Van Ree. (If you haven’t seen Tasya’s work, you should run your little internet browser over to her website and check it out; she has stunning images of very beautiful women and men.) It’s interesting timing for me personally, because I just set up a brunch date with a girl I met through a lesbian online dating site that looks just like Amber; the universe is trying to tell me something.

Heard explained her decision to publicly announce her sexual orientation at the GLAAD event: “I think when I became aware of my role in the media, I had to ask myself an important question: “Am I part of the problem?” And I think that when millions and millions of hard-working, tax-paying Americans are denied their rights and denied their equality you have to ask yourself what are the facts that are an epidemic problem and that’s what this is.” Um, why can’t celebrities make sense? Is it really that difficult to express yourself clearly? I guess so. Amber also said, a little more eloquently, “I personally think that if you deny something or if you hide something you’re inadvertently admitting it’s wrong. I don’t feel like I’m wrong. I don’t feel like millions of people are wrong because they love who they love or they were born how they were born.”
Yes, Amber, you’re making awesome sense now, and I am sorry if to cheapen the moment, but you and Tasya and now the main stars in the lesbian porn fantasy that plays in my head all day. I am one pervy girl and you just became part of my pervy fantasy full of hot lesbian women.

FOR LESBIANS

On Miserable Single Women

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Um, you know what I hate? Miserable single women. No, scratch that, I don’t hate miserable single women, I hate women who are miserable BECAUSE they are single. Lame. Why are there so many lesbian women (and straight women, for that matter) so desperate to start their lives as part of a couple RIGHT NOW. They act as if they are missing out on all that is gold in life. They are members of every single lesbian online dating website known to woman, have asked every single friend to set them up and prowl even the supermarket as if its sole purpose was to supply their soulmate.
Why? I want to shake them. Why? Being part of a couple does not make you happier. Sure, you’ve got a someone to go through life with, someone to tell you it’s ok when things go ape shit, but you have to pay for that service by working through all the crap that comes with a long-term relationship. It’s certainly not a picnic in the park.
Being in a relationship is hard-ass-hard. Even with a ‘soulmate,’ life goes on and shit happens – their shit happens, too.
Being single is fucking awesome. You don’t have to answer to anyone. You can play out your lesbian porn fantasies with all the women you can get your hands on. You can eat ice cream in bed naked and no one will judge you for it (but then again, your soulmate probably shouldn’t judge you for it either.) You get strong. When you fail you go home and answer to yourself and instead of just falling into someone else’s arms and allowing yourself to be lazy about, you change and do something about it. You get better. You see your friends. You actually go out to that art show/poetry reading/circus performance, because no one is tempting you with a naked ice cream in bed. Naked ice cream in bed is great, but there is no rush. Please, enjoy your time alone, single women. You are driving me angry with your craziness.

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Talk to Like Me, Baby

 

Not to pander to stereotypes, but in lesbian online dating, language is crucial. I’m not going to say that we talk a lot, but we are excellent communicators, most of us enjoy communication, and we value when others communicate effectively with us.
Well, researchers have now discovered that a key determinant of compatibility between any two people – not just lesbian women – is how similar the way you talk is to the way your object of interest talks. To be more specific, matching use of personal pronouns, prepositions, articles and adverbs all gets the sexual energy between two people flowing like a motherfucker.
Indeed, we are four times more likely to agree to go on a date with someone if the way they speak is even slightly matched to the way we speak.

Researchers discovered that people who texted or used IM and used similar patterns of language were 50 percent more likely to keep on dating.
As a voracious reader and someone who works in the field of communication, I find this study extremely fascinating. I’m curious as to the evolutionary function of this – is it because sharing language patterns increases the likelihood of a successful partnership? We all know that excellent communication between two people is essential to a happy relationship, and maybe we have evolved to recognize this even on an unconscious level.

The Four Dating Habits You Should Drop

Ok, chicks, you have to stop being stupid when it comes online lesbian dating. No more fucking games. Here are four dumb-ass habits you need to drop this year:

1. Worrying whether she likes you as much as you like her.
Waste of time. Such mental torture is useless. You are an intelligent woman, and if you like her, you are probably picking up on signs that says she likes you. People generally like people who like them. Studies have proven it. And if she really doesn’t dig you, I’m sure she’ll cut it off at a point where you wouldn’t be too broken-hearted about it. Indeed, the more you worry about, the worse the disappointment.
2. Phone Games
Are you a teenager? This isn’t 1992. Don’t wait to call her. You had some hot sex last night and you really want to let her know you enjoyed it, but you feel you should wait a couple of days? Why? That’s just dumb, dumb, dumb. Don’t harass her or anything, but if you feel like communicating with her, go for it. Anything else it’s just falseness and bullshit and prolonging of your union or eventual separation.
3. Breaking Other Plans to Chill with Her
Even the assholes at Cosmo know this is a stupid move. Don’t blow off your friends because she asked you out. If she really likes you, she’ll ask you out again. This isn’t a one chance kind of deal, and if it is, she isn’t worth it. Have some self-respect and have respect for your friends, because if you don’t she won’t, and either will your friends.
4. Careless Sex
The risk for STDs and transmission of HIV is lower with lesbian sex than it is with sex between men or men and women, but there is still a risk. You should discuss your sexual histories with one another before going to bed, not engage in risky activities before getting tested, such as oral sex if one of you has sores or cuts in your mouth, or the sharing of sex toys.

Lesbian Porn most popular among the Straights

To those that  are new to the lesbian scene and are wondering what all the hype is about when it comes to lesbian porn take a seat and let me explain. Most men think that girl on girl action is much more hotter then regular couple porn and these men tend to be straight. Its not only straight men that enjoy lesbian porn but also straight women who prefer watching a woman licking another woman. Thus lesbian porn is one the most popular porn videos out there.
As a straight women I love watching women eat each other out  and their facial expressions. Alot of straight women get turned on by lesbian porn moves because we know what it might feel like to be touched in the right spots and licked in the right areas that we become so horny by watching it. I also know what it takes to make my nipples hard and get hot and bothered and its the exact same things I see on lesbian porn.

Another hot thing about lesbian porn are sex toys they use. All different shapes and colors of sex toys, strap ons, and beads that are used to enhance a woman’s orgasm. And lesbian porn stars also get creative by teasing each other with toys  through anal fingering or oral sex . Watching a lesbian penetrate another lesbian with a strap on can really turn you on more then you think.
So the next time you’re in an adult video store check out who else might be in the lesbian porn section because it’s not just gay women. Many straight men and women and even straight couples find them selves in the lesbian porn section, some are there  because of curiosity other are there to spice up their sex life.
What ever you’re reason just get out and watch some lesbian porn !

Flirty Flirts Make For Bad Partners

A new study from Queen’s College in New York has discovered that people who are insecure make the best flirtswww.lesromance.comwhile people who flail and flounder at the sexual art generally do so because they are confident.
It makes sense. An insecure person will do whatever she can to please her object of interest. As one of the researchers put it, “Insecure people have developed numerous dating tactics…that they display to win over romantic partners.” I’ve see this manifest in the world of lesbian adult dating on numerous occasions.
While an insecure woman tends to focus the conversation on the object of interest, avoid topics that may be boring to the other, extend compliments and make an extra effort to be warm and engaging, the confident woman will launch into a subject that interests her and talk about it passionately – even though she might risk boring the other.
In the end, the latter move is always better. In the frantic world of women matching women, it is a waste of time to pretend you are or are not interested in something. You want to find a woman that shares your passion, or is at least genuinely interested in hearing about your passion.
While a great flirt might be good, at max, for an awesome night of hot I-wanna-please-you lesbian sex, she isn’t exactly going to make an awesome long-term partner.

Does She Want You?

It can be hard to tell, sometimes, if that beautiful woman is into you or if she is simply one super lovely, friendly human being. Particularly for women who are just getting into the lesbian dating game, deciphering whether she’s so hot for you she imagines making a lesbian porn film with you on a daily basis, or is just a touchy-feely mom type, can be some tricky shit. Like with any of these crazy lists, these are not hard and fast rules, and I caution you to use your common sense above all else, but they might just help push you in the right direction:

She touches you…
She actually touches you. She doesn’t just grab your arm and say, “Thank you,” when you’ve done something kind, or give you a hug after your dog Grouchy gets attacked by a squirrel, she really touches you. At a party, she puts her hand on your knee and lingers a bit. Or she puts her hand on top of yours after you tell her your favorite author is MIlan Kundera and says, “You keep surprising me, Rita.” Simply think about the context of the physical contact and whether or not it would be the natural reaction of a woman interested only in platonic affection.
She thinks you’re funny….
Or maybe she doesn’t And you don’t. And no one else seems to, but she’s always laughing at your jokes. Umm, then yeah, she’s definitely into you.
She Seeks You Out…
And you’re not playing Hide and Seek. She makes her way across a crowded room to talk to you at a party, even though you two aren’t close. You show up at the bar gathering late and get stuck at the table with the other group of people that make up the larger one; nevertheless, she slides out of the booth she’s in and makes her way to the chair beside you.
She Compliments You…
And not on your sweater or your vintage handbag or your bangs. She says you have the most dazzling green eyes she has ever seen in her entire life, and that your lips are beautiful. Tell her you can’t wait for hers to be upon them.

312 Fights a Year

Jesus fucking christ! I just read a dating stat that blew my mind: the average couple has 312 fights a year. That’s a lot of fights. That’s almost one a day. I am exhausted just thinking about it. Indeed, as a single woman looking for love in the lesbian online dating world, where I see countless women matching women, and never find that one match myself, I can not help but feel a tiny little bit better about being alone after considering this statistic. I mean – at least I’m not having 312 arguments a year with myself! Or am I. Actually, I quite possibly am…
Anyways, the majority of these 31 fights are apparently about little things such as who ate the last fudgsicle or who forgot to turn off the lights in the living room before going to bed. Not a big deal, right? Wrong. These bastardly little fights eventually build and grow and collect, and eventually become a massive source of tension between you and your partner.


This study was conducted by www.betterbathrooms.com, which is hilarious, because they are obviously just doing it so they can get you to buy their products by claiming they’ll eliminate such arguments or whatever. Anyways, the website surveyed 3,000 adults about their bickering habits, and found that the most common fight was usually over cleanliness. Ah, man, so true: nothing will kill the night of hot lesbian sex you had planned with your partner more than an argument over who is going to scrub the toilet. Nothin’.
“All couples argue,” said Nick Elson, one of the spokesman for the company that conducted the survey, “but to see how much time they argue over simple things like household chores was a bit of an eye opener. It seems a lot of time to be wasting bickering however annoying habits can get.” True, man, totally true, but the question still remains – how to solve the problem? Your bathroom products sure as hell ain’t going to solve the issue. Some intense meditation might solve the problem. But probably, realizing that we are all assholes who weren’t meant to live  in close quarters with the same partner for the rest of our lives, would solve the problem in a much more effective manner.
Oh yeah, I feel totally better about being alone now.

Opposites Do Not Attract

A new study published in a recent Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin says we tend to be attracted to people who look like ourselves. Ew. Creepy. Not creepy? Narcissistic?
The study these findings were based on had subjects look at images of themselves morphed with a a stranger, or images of just a stranger. When asked who was hotter, the subjects usually chose the picture that was a morphing of them and someone else.
So, let me get this straight? When matching women to myself, I’m probably going to choose a girl who kind of looks like me? Wow. What a weird thought.
The explanation put forth by researched ad deCODE Genetics in Rekjavik makes perfect sense. It’s actually not narcissism that drives us to do this, it’s genetic compatibility. If we’re clicking on profiles of women that look like us on lesbian dating websites, it probably comes from that part of us that thinks we can make better babies with them (even though, well, as lesbian women, we, ahem, can’t make babies together.)
Research conducted by deCODE has demonstrated that while first-cousin couples have inbreeding issues, third and fourth cousin couples actually have ideal reproduction. The particular degree of genetic similarity between third and fourth cousins apparently makes for great babies. Couples that are too far removed form each other, on the other hand, might have genetic incompatibilities. Since many of use lived in smaller communities where the most distant people we could hook up with would probably be our fourth cousins, this makes total sense from an evolutionary perspective.
It would be interesting to see if similar studies on lesbian women and gay men had the same results.

Lesbian Parents and Heterosexual Parent both have successful children.

Recent studies show that the deep stereotypical and much current political struggle for homosexuals who raise children are very much capable as heterosexual couples to rear a child towards success. In 2006, 3200 children were living with same sex couples in the UK, 89 % of those children had lesbian parents. The only concern in the study is that regardless of a couples sexual orientation, children tend to flourish more with two parents instead of one.

Articles that do support the parenting equilibrium between same sex parents and heterosexual coupes prove there is no one type household structure that is more effective when raising children. The only element of importance is the parenting practices that take place at home. With more positive and effect parenting practices, regardless of family structure the outcome tends to show better parent and child relationship and more effective and positive parent – child discipline.
There are many ways married lesbians or common-law same -sex partners are choosing to have children. Women that are in a couple tend to choose the youngest female partner to carry the child by choosing to go through sperm banks. The study does show that if dating and relationships aren’t the choice or many straight or gay singles the option of adoption, sperm banks or even arranged sex can still be in their favor. Single mother parents have much lower child delinquency rates, and similar if not greater parental control and higher educational performance then two parent couples and single father hood families.

How To flirt with a lesbian

Whether its the the first date, a first sexual encounter or the beginning stages of you’re lesbian relationship try these tips for flirting to make you feel more comfortable and confident about what you’re doing.

1. When you and you’re partner are together try sitting next to her and see is she moves away and stays next you. If you’re thighs are touching on a couch or a seat she what she does. Does she move away or let her leg touch yours.
2. Always keep eye contact with her. You can tell if someone feels uncomfortable by a subject or physical movement if you keep eye contact with that person.
3. Be a womanly gentleman. Opening doors, holding her coat or paying for her movie ticket are simple and nice gestures that flirtatious and romantic.
4. Feel sexy and make her feel the same. Compliment her on her dress or shirt and tell her how unbelievable she looks. Lifting her confidence up will also make her feel more comfortable around you.
5. Be positive and don’t care about the outcome of the night. Women flirting with women is just a playful and fun act in itself so don’t be so serious about whether she’s the one or how she might not be the one. Enjoy the night and the company of pretty lady.

Lesbian Sex Scenes for the Fall Months

It’s Fall and soon hibernation is key to survival. In lesbian dating, it’s always useful to think of steamy indoor activities you can enjoy with a new date or an old date or, if you have no date, your cat Charles.
Well, you can never go wrong renting a movie, particularly if it includes a hot lesbian sex scene. Here’s our picks for the top five lesbian love scenes in cinema:
1. Frida (2002)

Not only is this a brilliant movie about a brilliant artist, Salma Hayek gets naked and makes love to a woman. I don’t think I need to say anything else except, again, ‘naked Salma Hayek.’
2. Gia  (1998)
Angelina Jolie gets it on with a stunning blonde in this made-for-TV movie. Trust me, the sex scenes definitely don’t seem made for TV.
3. Lost and Delirious (2001)
Piper Perabo and Jessica Pare star in this pretty bad movie about girls at an all-girls school. But, when Pare and Perabo explore lesbian sex for the first time, and we get a glimpse of Pare’s gorgeous, heavy, 18th century chest, any other flaws the movie might have are completely forgiven.
4. Personal Best (1982)
The sex scene between Mariel Hemingway and Patrice Donnelly in this flick is rugged and raw, and depicts lesbian sex much more realistically than most other Hollywood movies; for this reason, the scene belongs in the top five.
5. Wild Side (1995)
This movie is not well known, but the sex between Anne Heche and the beautiful Joan Chen in it is absolutely remarkable.

Tips to Attract Lesbian Girls

If you tend to be a shy  and new to the lesbian dating game then read this article to find the the main tips too attract you’re lesbian crush.
The first tip to attracting lesbian woman or you’re lesbian crush is by having a dazzling personality. Almost 30 % of adults in the U.S that do use online dating rate personality as the most important factor when finding a mate and many other studies shows that women rate personality before looks unlike males. So perfecting you’re personality and being you’re self is crucial to meeting women.  Women can sense if you’re comfortable and confident and often find that a turn on.
The second tip is to keep you’re cool. If you’re shy and looking it can easily come off as insecure and desperate so matter what situation you are in make sure to stay calm and cool around your  date. Women tend to get nervous on dates because they haven’t dated at all or its been a while but remember that by keeping you’re cool you give off the vibe that you can  get any girl but you choose you’re girl instead, which will let you’re lesbian partner feel flattered.
The third tip is that you need to have tough skin when your out in the dating world. Rejection can be tough but everybody goes through rejection one time or another, doesn’t matter if you’re rich, pretty, short or tall. Don’t have high expectations when you’re going out in to the dating world because you might be missing out on a lot of good women by being too narrow.
The fourth tip is to keep you’re dates casual. Don’t scare off you’re date by being too conventional and romantic. Remember to have fun by getting to know each other on the first date without following any rules.
Getting into the lesbian dating world can be a bit overwhelming at first especially if you haven’t dated in a while or haven’t dated at all but just be yourself and remember to have a good time!

SEXUAL ORIENTATION,WHAT IS MINE?ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED!

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Well, this is going to be a lengthy post and I’d like to apologize for that, in advance. I would also like to thank any person whom ends up giving me advice or even just having the patience to read the following. I really appreciate it!

Anyway hello, I am a female, the age of eighteen. I’m not sure of my sexual orientation. I mean, when I was young I had crushes on guys, or at least I appreciated guys whom were “pretty”. I never ever wanted to date a guy though, I always wanted to call them, “adopt” them as a brother of my one! It’s a strange antic I had/and still tend to have now.  I always found it aggravating really, for I always felt inferior when it comes to guys, for if I don’t see them as friend/or “brother” at least now, I see them as my enemy, competition in a way. I was a girlie-girl when I was young for my mother adored it and I just wanted to fit in with other kids. As of now though, and even then, after I got out from primary school, I tend to like being a tomboy. I liked to wear big shirts, guy shirts, wear jeans, no make-up unless it was for Halloween and freaking people out.I didn’t like tight clothing, didn’t find girly clothing all that fun to wear or be in nor did I find a good reason to “pretty” myself up, just that it was a waste of time. I also wondered, how it would be if I was a boy at times.

I mean, I fell for a friend before and even told her that I had feelings for her, though she rejected it, which hurt me so much inside, as if my heart was crushed. I even liked a few other people of the same sex, had crushes on them,but I also held a slight crush on some close guy friends for a bit, before I would see them as a “brother”,if not competition and move on, unlike if it were a crush on a girl, I’d cling onto her for so much longer. Even with say, “attractive” guys, I wouldn’t be drooling over them like the majority of girls, rather I’d be kind of envious of him, wishing I could make girls be like that, or at the very least appreciate that he is physically pretty looking,but I wouldn’t find him hot or appealing to me. I find the male body, specially his genitalia area, disgusting really and could never figure out how women could find that to be amazing.

Even if it may seem like I’m absolutely into the same sex, I still wonder, I mean the female body though, it turns me on, if it’s said to be in a sexual atmosphere, be it intended in a movie or commercial only, if it’s just an ordinary person plainly dressed or what not I don’t find them that interesting to look at or appealing unless I get to know them and she is appealing, via personality. I also feel the need to be protective over my female friends whom I see as close, if not the females whom I tend to have a crush on. At the very same time though, if a girl has a body that I’d wish to have, I get envious too. So what do you think my sexual orientation could be?

What women really want

make her feel adored and special

What women want: give her what she wants/needs 

1. Tell her you love her...and mean it! 

2. Hold her in your arms; hug her; kiss her every opportunity you get 

3. Help her with household duties/chores. Don't expect her to be Superwoman; that is the fastest way to disaster.com 

4. Be a true gentleman(or what so ever you wanna call it). Offer assistance, don't wait to be asked. "Let me help you with that...." 

5. Support her endeavours. Get her something in her personal area of interest. This will show that you are interested in her and her interests & self-development; and also that you do really pay attention. Get her a book on a subject she's been researching; a subscription to her favourite magazine; a favourite CD etc. 

6. Appreciate her efforts. There's nothing as demotivating as being unappreciated. Tell her you appreciate what she does at home; her taking good care of the kids(if there are kids involved) and their affairs; her running the household. Be honest & swallow that pride - tell her you really would be lost without her. 

7. Be generous with praise and acknowlegdements. 

8. Most important of all, continue to show deep LOVE for each other, for LOVE makes up for many of your faults. 

9. Be faithful! 
What women want: Is love that important?

Is love what ladies really wish for? 

Yes, with love comes all the right/special treatment. Even the so-called "high-maintenance women" or "gold diggers" would, honestly, appreciate some love. You see, some women have simply just given up on love. They have gotten into a relationship for love, and when that love disappeared, they vowed to look for something much more 'glittering' the next time around. But if all a man/woman provides is material possessions, the woman would sooner or later feel that it's not worth it, and leave the wealthy guy/girl for some broke,but loving man/woman. 

The bottom line: What women want is to be loved and appreciated,and of course fidelity - that is what women want. Affection, appreciation, and everything else, will follow almost 'magically' when love and fidelity are in order . Men/women should realise that they can do themselves a huge favour, simply by giving love to their women. 

A woman's need to be loved could even be used 'selfishly'or abused because loving her the way she wants to be loved serves your interests too. Yes, there are more benefits for you if her number one need is satisfied. She will be happier and less moody, and believe me, you don't want an unhappy woman living with you. Everything you do will irritate her and make her mad, she will nag and she will turn into your worst nightmare if she is unsatisfied. 

Stop the nagging in its tracks, it is just a symptom of the emptiness and the loneliness she feels inside. Give her all your love, do not hold back your feelings. Go ahead, call her right now and express your deep love for her. 

Let her know she is appreciated and valued! All the best in your mission to give her what she wants and needs forsure. Love is what women want.

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love or lose

When I was 17 years old I met my best friend, Chris's new girl friend Emily. (Now I know what you're probably thinking but just read on). I'm a shy person so I was very self conscious upon meeting her, I didn't want her to make fun of me or to think I was weird. After a few months we started to try hanging out without our other friends. I helped teach Emily how to skateboard, not do tricks or anything but just to skateboard around in the street. As a group there were four of us (Me, Chris, Emily, and Dave). Chris wasn't allowed to have girls sleep over at his grandmas, so his girl friend had to sleep at my house. We would watch movies and kind of try to talk but it was months before I could really be open with her and consider her a friend. One night she was kind of drunk and we were laying down to sleep. I didn't have a bra on and Emily just laid on top of me and said "is it okay if we cuddle?" I felt weird about it but I said yeah and she rested her head on top of my chest and fell asleep. After that we started shopping together and having more and more sleep overs. Every time Emily slept over, we would cuddle and every time I liked it more and more. Eventually I felt like I wanted more than just to be friends with her but I never said anything because I didn't want it to end. I found myself trying to freeze time in the moment where she would lay on me, and I just held her and she looked so happy. I just wanted to make her happy like that forever. That was when I knew I loved her, and that it didn't matter that she was a girl. I still said nothing because she was straight (then again so was I up until that point). She was my friends girl friend, but she became my best friend, and she made me so happy.www.lesromance.com A whole year and a half went by like this, we became so close. I was scared, I didn't want her to be freaked out if she found out that I wanted to be with her. I had to tell her. So I did, I told her that I couldn't help my feelings but that I was in love with her. She said that it was okay and that she would still be my friend even though she wasn't into me like that. Everything continued except now she would flirt with me when we were drunk or high, and she would tell me that if she was ever to hook up with a girl it would be me. This confused me because before she said that she just wanted to be friends. But she kept inviting me over for scary movies and to cuddle and drink wine. She invited me to her family birthday party in September of my Freshmen year of College, and Chris couldn't come because of work. When her family left, she attacked me. She wrestled me onto the bed and then she took out her vibrator jokingly, but she would not let go of me and I couldn't move! She started tickling me and then she was about to stick the vibrator down my pants and I managed to get on top of her and stop her. I wished that I had not stopped her, I wanted it so badly but I didn't want to hurt our friendship. I went away to school a month after that, and that was when everything changed. She was depressed a lot and cut herself and she used to text me like 2 and 3 am that she was going to kill herself. I was worried a lot. She was opening up to me more and more about everything and I didn't wanna know most of it but I listened and I didn't tell anyone about any of it. No one knew that I was up crying all night not knowing whether my friend was alive or dead. No one, not even our friend Dave, who also went to college with me. He had no idea that she was even depressed. He was however, paranoid and jealous that something was going on between me and Emily. He was best friends with Chris and I had become best friends with Emily. That's just how it worked out. But when I eventually came out to everyone, they saw it. They knew that either I liked Emily or that she liked me or that something was going on between us. NOTHING was going on REALLY, at least we weren't having sex like I WANTED to. Anyway, Dave got paranoid that I was hooking up with Chris' girl firned and so he went on my myspace and read a message from her. This message was a huge mistake for him to have read. It wasn't about me hooking up with her, it was about Emily's life, everything in it that made her so depressed. And with that he ruined it. He made her hate me, he made her think that I flat out told him her secret. She wouldn't listen to me that he went through my shit. In her eyes, it was my fault for not deleting the message before Emily lost all trust in me 4 years ago, and has continued to make my life feel like hell ever since. I had been kind of with this girl, Megan. I had only dated her for 3 months and then I broke up with her in September but then we continued to talk and hook up. When I came home for Thanksgiving, Chris invited me over to drink. We were drunk and running around and Emily pulled me under the dining table. "shhh! let's hide from Dave and Chris!" so we hid jokingly because one time we hid under Dave's dorm room bed and instead of him coming in, his roommate did and it was really funny. So we hid under the table and no one came for a while so she looked into my eyes and took the alcohol whipped cream and said let's do body shots. this is when the conversation happened. me(pointing at her): "YOU!!!!!" Emily: "what?" me: "You are such a fucking lesbian when you're drunk!" Emily: "I KNOW!" me: "but REALLY, you're a lesbian you're always hitting on me and flirting with me." Emily: "I KNOW!" So we decided then and there that we wanted to make out by the end of the night. but we also knew that Chris would get mean about it and say she cheated on him with me. When we went upstairs to find the guys they were sitting on Chris's bed. We sat down and the conversation came up, the guys wanted the girls to make out. (for once!!!! seriously this never happened before) I was excited. "Well we cant do anything unless the guys do first, I don't want there to be drama after about it and saying it's cheating."- Emly So the guys started making out hard core! And she pulled me over to her and she kissed me. It was the most passionate kiss of my life! and I've made out with around 40 people give or take drunk nights. She was just so aggressive and in all the right ways, and she bit my lip and I didn't want it to end. Then we looked over and the guys were on each other. A dick came out and went into the other's mouth. (shit!!!!! we said we would do anything the guys did... and I was still a virgin when it came to girls. I was saving myself for the right girl. What went through my mind is... this is the right girl. Emily was ALWAYS the right girl.) We started to kiss each other a little bit and then we went down on each other after I convinced her finally to take her clothes off, she was embarrassed because she also had never been with a girl. Then it became an orgy and everyone was all over everyone. whole time all I could think about was how much I wanted it to be just me and Emily. 2 days later, Emily and Chris got engaged. She has not considered me a friend since Thanksgiving. She told me that the whole time we knew each other, she just pretended to be my friend. What do you think? With everything in here it looks to me that we were good friends. I know it's time to let go of her, I already have but in a way I hate these memories because they make the present hurt so much.

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for lesbians

www.lesromance.com I wasn't born a lesbian, nor did I just wake up one day and say "Hey, I'm gonna be a lesbian!" It came upon me slowly through out my teenage years. I did date guys, and get involved with them as well. I like to think that the experiences I had with men drew me to become less attracted to them as I dated more.  I grew up in a household, raised by my grandparents thinking that being a homosexual was wrong and something chosen by the person. As I got older I realized, you can't just chose who you want to be. You don't just go and look in your closet and say "hmm.... today i feel like being a lesbian..." No. It doesn't work that way at all. Some people may just know from birth that they don't like men, but others realize it after a few years. It could be caused by a bad relationship or it just happens.  I became home schooled in grade school. In that time I got to reflect on people and how they acted. I got afraid to talk to any one and didn't have many friends. Eventually, my mother put me back into regular school. I started back up in 7th grade at a very diverse middle school. There were all walks of life there. The group of girls that I hung out with were all bi-sexual. They all knew they were bi-sexual. I got my first taste of being with a girl because of hanging out with them. I figured about a year before I went back to public schools that I was into guys and girls. But, it was different to be able to experience what it was like to be with a girl. It almost put me off for a while.  In the beginning of my 7th grade year, I went to my cousins wedding. There I meet my godmothers. They were these butch lesbians that were very womanly at the same time. That was the first experience I got to interact with lesbians. I soaked it all in. The two days that we were in town for the wedding I got to know them, and I asked them a lot of questions. One of which was "How did you know you were a lesbian?" They looked at me and giggled, they said: "You just know. You don't wake up one day and say you want to be a lesbian. It just happens." I feel like these two ladies know that I was a lesbian before I even fully understood what that word meant. I feel like they looked at me and knew.  At that time I was dating a boy. I dated two guys that year. Both of which were very special to me, and they still are. Well, not them exactly, but the fact that they were a lot of firsts for me was very special. They are also the start of my fall from being bi-sexual.  But, about this time last year, I was in the tenth grade. I started to really question my sexuality. A lot. Because of me being a strong believer in dreams and how dreams control what is going on in your life, I realized that I was dreaming more, and more about beautiful women. I would wake up feeling satisfied by the dream but also very confused. After analyzing more of the dreams, I figured out that maybe I should change up my life style and see if it's for me. So I did. I dated a girl for a half a year, nothing really came out of it for me. So, I went back to dating guys. I dated two guys that year. but I still wasn't even satisfied fully with that. The last guy I dated, I just couldn't bare the thought of having sex with. I wouldn't even touch him.  So, after he broke up with me, I promised myself that I wouldn't date for a while. That lasted about a month and a half and then I meet a girl, we'll call her "C", I meet her at my city's local pride event that summer. She was beautiful. Tattooed, motivated, just what I thought was amazing. We talked for a little while and I started to really like her. I was a lifeguard this summer and I worked all the time. I never got to see her and eventually we stopped talking and she got into a relationship. I was highly upset by this and I pretty much deleted her out of my life.  The more I interacted with girls, talking to the, asking them about every thing I realized that I was into women. I was fascinated with being with a girl, with dating a girl. I felt pretty and sexy when I thought about finding a girl that I could be in a long relationship with. I guess that's how I figured out that I was a lesbian. It just happened over time.  There's a lot more to my life and these stories that I will eventually touch on as I write. I have also realized that this blog would be a good way for me to be able to openly share all of my experiences.