sex with lesbians

The challenge of maintaining a healthy sex life in a monogamous relationship is a goddamn nightmare – let’s be honest. It can be done, but it takes a lot of work. There are some typical bad behaviors and traps long-term couples fall into that can, with a little bit of determination, be avoided.

1. Waiting Until You’re In the Mood
Oooooh. This one is brutal. Um, you and your girlfriend have been together for a very long time. While at first, fucking her was like fucking a lesbian porn star, now things have simmered down quite a bit. You used to rip her clothes off in the kitchen while she was making fajitas and suck her pussy, but now you see her make fajitas in her tight jeans all the time and you could care less. So, you never have sex, because you don’t naturally excite each other as much and are thus always too tired or too busy or whatever. Um, no, this can’t be your thinking. You’ve got to be a woman with a plan. Be spontaneous yet planned; wake up on fajita day and decide you’re going to get old school on your lady’s ass and rip off her clothes that night no matter how tired you are. Promise it to yourself, and don’t take her no for an answer.
2. Refusing Sex
You are mad. She left the space heater on again while you guys were at work and you told her not to do that eight million times and why doesn’t she understand you are simply worried about the house burning down…She didn’t apologize either, so, fuck her, no sex tonight, right? She is definitely not getting anything for a while. BIG MISTAKE. Do you really want to use sex as a tool of resentment? You real want to mix that shit up? Space heater anger and sex? Does that sound wise to you? Is it really worth it? I believe strongly that this is one to avoid – things can really get out of control this way.
3. The Comfort Zone
Get out there! Quick! There’s a stereotype out there that lesbian sex can get very boring because there are only a limited number of things we can do to one another. Of course, any of us who have actually had lesbian sex know this is not at all true. I have been thinking of at least a zillion ridiculously dirty things I want to do with my current online date, but they are too naughty to mention here. Couples however, as we all know, tend to box themselves in mentally and physically. Take a step back, take a break, read an erotic book, watch some porn, get some ideas on all the unchartered territory you can explore together – it’ll be well worth the effort.