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Not to pander to stereotypes, but in lesbian online dating, language is crucial. I’m not going to say that we talk a lot, but we are excellent communicators, most of us enjoy communication, and we value when others communicate effectively with us.
Well, researchers have now discovered that a key determinant of compatibility between any two people – not just lesbian women – is how similar the way you talk is to the way your object of interest talks. To be more specific, matching use of personal pronouns, prepositions, articles and adverbs all gets the sexual energy between two people flowing like a motherfucker.
Indeed, we are four times more likely to agree to go on a date with someone if the way they speak is even slightly matched to the way we speak.

Researchers discovered that people who texted or used IM and used similar patterns of language were 50 percent more likely to keep on dating.
As a voracious reader and someone who works in the field of communication, I find this study extremely fascinating. I’m curious as to the evolutionary function of this – is it because sharing language patterns increases the likelihood of a successful partnership? We all know that excellent communication between two people is essential to a happy relationship, and maybe we have evolved to recognize this even on an unconscious level.